(11-23-2015, 06:40 PM)izzy Wrote: I am going to politely disagree. Children deserve an intact mommy and daddy both living on-prem. I have taught children for over 20 years, and even when the parents have outside relationships, as long as the are cordial to each other and parent together, and maintain the appearance of a mommy and daddy, the children benefit. I have seen it many times and have yet to witness this alleged "the children are better off" when mommy and daddy split. I never have seen it. It devastates the kids. IMNTBMFHO, this divorce is okay or single parent thing is something people tell themselves to justify their actions.
So in short, without regard for something between Nick and Adalind, the created a life together, so they owe that life at least 20 years or so of creating a illusion of an intact family.
I went to visit my brother in Oregon a few months back. I was saddened to see him suddenly break down just from recalling a childhood event with my father that went sour. He was no belligerent teenager, only a little boy at the time and did nothing wrong. My brother just turned 57 and is still haunted by that to this day.
We had an intact mom and dad on premises. They presented the illusion that they were happily married to the outside world. The internal reality was far different. We rejoiced when they got along and cringed when they didn't. Far more devastating than any divorce. In my opinion.
I don't want to compare Nick and Adalind to my family, but just from experience, I don't see two such dysfunctional people overcoming such tremendous obstacles. They'd be far better off apart from one another, taking care of their son.
Respectfully from the other side of the coin.
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